Totally Unpredictable.....love story

** Moralful story** ( it changed my thinking ) must read

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years into marriage, I would have
to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form... flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…

A Story about Onsite... Every Software Engineer should read this

Every Software Engineer should read this.

 A Story about Onsite...!

One fine day, Vivek's PL Bhatia asks him whether he has any time for a small meeting. Vivek obviously has time and so the two go to a conference

room. Bhatia then clears his throat and says "Vivek, there is an on-site

requirement. It is in Covina , Los Angeles . It is for six months. I can

suggest your name. Do you have any problems?"

Vivek cannot believe his ears. Of course why should any one have problems

going to the Sam land. "Of course no Bhatia.. I have no

problems." he says.

Bhatia looks at him very kindly and says "You better draw up your personal

plans with your wife and let me know in a day or two" That's when Vivek

remembers that he has a wife. Then it strikes him that there is a himalayan

problem in front of him. Shobana is working in Wipro. She is in

the middle of a project in which she is a moduleleader. She cannot leave it

all and come to Covina with Vivek. On the otherhand it will be cruel on

Vivek's part to leave her here and go to Covina for more than half a year. Moreover,

they have just been married. Vivek can stay back. But one day he has to go..

He cannot stay back in India indefinitely. Project requirements are too

demanding. Shobana can resign Wipro and accompany Vivek. But what is the

guarantee that she would find such a nice job in such a nice company after they come

back from Covina ? So Shobana and Vivek discuss this issue. They reluctantly agree to get separated for six months.

Vivek hugs Shobana in the airport and says "I will be BACK" in a typical

Arnold Scharzegger tone and then boards Delta Airways leaving Shobana in

tears. In Covina Vivek gets lots of work and his stay gets extended by  two

more months. The days and months move very slowly. Vivek starts counting

even minutes.

During this period, Shobana's PL Ashish Mehta calls her one day and asks

her whether she has any time for a small meeting. Shobana wonders what

that meeting is.. They go to the conference room and Mehta tells her

about a great on-site requirement in Berlin , Germany for their customer.

"It is for six months and you are most suited person for this. I am

going to suggest your name. Do you have any problems?" Mehta asks her.

Shobana gets excited.. Berlin ! She has never been out of India . So she

instantly nods her head. Mehta then smiles and says "Okay discuss with

your hubby and let me know in a day or two"

That's when Shobana gets the gravity of the situation. It will be two

months before Vivek can come home..... By the time Shobana will have left to

Berlinfor six months. Shobana cannot decline this as this is an

important assignment. That night Vivek spends hundred dollars on

telephone to discuss this matter with Shobana. Finally they decide to go

ahead. Shobana breaks down in the phone and Vivek breaks down thinking

about his phone bill. And then Shobana leaves to Berlin .

One month after that,Vivek comes back to India . Then Shobana calls him

almost everyday and they discuss about all petty things on the phone.

Shobana applies for a loan to clear her telephone bills. Vivek gets into

a new project which is not yet started. His PL Prateek Ray calls him one

day and says that he has to go to Toledo Ohio for the requirement analysis

of that project. Vivek frantically says no. Shobana is arriving next month. He doesn't want to miss her. But Ray assures him that the work is only for one month and

that he would be back before Shobana comes to India . Thus Vivek flies to

Toledo Ohio and gets into the requirement analysis of the new project.

That's when he comes to know how difficult it is to retrieve information

from the users. You can design a system the user wants only when the

user knows what he wants. Vivek gets baffled by the questions his users

put..

"Do you think I need those fields "GMG_TYPE_HJHJ_TW" and

"Auto_level_ind"?What are they by the way?" The requirements analysis

stage continues for three full months at this pace. Shobana comes to India one

month after that. And she tells her PL that she doesn't want anymore

on-site assignments. "I understand" says Mehta and she desperately waits for Vivek to come back to India . It has already been two months over a year

since they last met. Vivek then gets the role of an on-site co-ordinator

for this customer. He calls Shobana that night and they really don't

know what to do. Shobana offers to resign her job and join him in Toledo . But

she is getting 21 grand per month in Indiaand Vivek doesn't want to lose

that. "Two more months Shobana and I promise I will be back" Shobana

retorts back, "There is no solution for this problem." Vivek gets

surprised. "What are you talking about?" he asks her. Shobana fights back her tears. "As long as I am in Wipro I will be getting a lot of on-site opportunities. Even if I

decline all of them, what about you? You also work for a software

company and there you need to go abroad almost once every quarter.

I cannot accompany you as you don't want me to resign my job here. Does

that mean we have to stay like this forever? Vivek! I love you and I

don't know how I spent fifteen months without even seeing you once. I

may not recognize you also if you come in front of me now... Tell me Vivek,

is there a solution for this problem?" Vivek doesn't speak anything for a

moment. He then realizes the truth in her sentences. It is a neverending

problem.

But what about the 20 grand she is getting per month?

"Vivek, is money everything? Can't we comfortably live with what you are

getting? Please Vivek, try to understand the situation" Shobana breaks

down. Vivek is still undecided. He married a software engineer with a

hope that with two incomes he would have a good deal of money to plan their

future."Let us face the reality, Vivek" Shobana says, "How much are you

paying for the phone calls now? More than 20 grand per month.

If I am with you there will your phone bill be so astronomical? Just

tell me one thing. Won't you be happy having me there with you?" Shobana

slowly turns hysterical. Vivek gets into the crux of the situation. It is true.

He has been spending around 600 to 700 dollars per month on India calls...

that is far more than what Shobana is getting then. He thinks and

thinks..for two days he does nothing else but thinking. Finally he decides that

he should have Shobana with him all the time from then onwards at any cost.

Shobana gladly prepares the resignation letter and submits it. Her PL

smiles and says "You've made the right decision Shobana..

 congratulations  for the bold step. I understand your problems. Anyway! you have a three

months notice period here, right? We have a one month assignment in

Singapore ....."

MORAL : No software professional should marry another software professional.... unless one of them is ready to resign.

How To Be A Friend...

01. Don't worry about knowing people just make yourself worth knowing.

02. Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.

03. If you can buy a person's friendship, it is not worth it.

04. True friends have hearts that beat as one.

05. If you cannot think of any nice things to say about your friends, then you have the wrong friends.

06. Make friends before you need them.

07. If you were another person, would you like to be a friend of yours?

08. A good friend is one who neither looks down on you nor keeps up with you.

09. Be friendly with the folks you know… if it weren't for them you would be a total stranger.

10. A friend is never known till he is needed.

11. Friendship is a responsibility...not an opportunity.

12. Friendship is the cement that holds the world together.

13. Friends are those who speak to you after others don't.

14. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.

15. Pick your friends, but not to pieces.

16. A friend is one who puts his finger on a fault without rubbing it in.

17. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.

18. If a friend makes a mistake, don't rub it in... Rub it out.

19. Deal with other's faults as gently as if they were your own.

20. People are judged by the company they keep and the company they keep away from.

21. A friend is a person who can step on your toes without messing up your shine.

22. The best mirror is an old friend.

23. The best possession one may have is a true friend.

24. Make friendship a habit and you will always have friends.

25. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.

26. Doing nothing for your friends results in having no friends to do for.

27. Anyone can give advice, but a real friend will lend a helping hand.

28. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.

29. A real friend is a person who, when you've made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.

30. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.

31. You can buy friendship with friendship, but never with dollars.

32. True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare; false friends are like autumn leaves, found everywhere.

33. A friend is someone who thinks you're a good egg even though you're slightly cracked.

LOVE'S STORY

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats and left. Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?" Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat." Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you." "Oh....Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"

Happiness passed by Love too, but he was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!

Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went his own way.

Love realizing how much he owed the elder and asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?" "It was Time," Knowledge answered. "Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?" Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because, only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

A TRUE TOUCHING STORY

I was walking around in a Big Bazar store making shopping,

when I saw a Cashier talking to a boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old.

The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy this doll.

Then the little boy turned to me and asked: ''Aunty, are you sure

I don't have enough money?''

I counted his cash and replied: ''You know that you don't have enough money to buy the dolll, my dear.'' The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally,

I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to.

'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much .

Iwanted to Gift her for her BIRTHDAY. I have to give the doll to my mommy so

that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.'

His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My Sister has gone to be with God.

Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so

I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister.

'' My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and

aid: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until

I come back from the mall.'

Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing.

He then told me 'I want mommy to take my picture with her so my sister

won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me,

but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.

' Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.

I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again,

just in case you do have enough money for the doll?'' 'OK' he said,

I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and

we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!

' Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before

I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll,

so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted to have

enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't dare to ask

God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose.

My mommy loves white roses.'

I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started.

I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind.. Then I remembered a local news

paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who

hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The little girl died right away,

and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether

to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would

not be able to recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy?

Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the newspaper that

the young woman had passed away.. I couldn't stop myself as I bought a bunch

of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young

woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial.

She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the

photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest.

I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever.

The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is still,

to this day, hard to imagine. And in a fraction of a second,

a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.

PLEASE DO NOT DRINK & DRIVE.


Now you have 2 choices:

Forward this message & spread awareness

OR

Ignore it as if it never touched your heart.

For those who prefer to think that God is not watching over us....
go ahead and delete this. For the rest of us... pass this on.

THE VALUE OF A MAN OR WOMAN RESIDES IN WHAT HE OR SHE GIVES,

NOT IN WHAT HE OR SHE IS CAPABLE OF RECEIVING.

The Mysterious Thing Called LOVE.

If you find yourself in love with someone
who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose
to rest in the other person’s heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and
you don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came and
called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do
not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even
if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in
love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try
to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.

There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time .

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand
love only as a need.

They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something
that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.

They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone
who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is
that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has
its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for
coming and going.

You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason
it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it
away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your
heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do
and there is nothing you should do.

Love has always been and will always be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

What is the most important part of our body?

My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body? Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct Answer.

When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, 'My ears, Mommy.'
When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, 'My ears, Mommy.'

She said, 'No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.'

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer.

My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body? Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct Answer.

When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, 'My ears, Mommy.'

She said, 'No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.'

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer.

So this time I told her, 'Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes.'

She looked at me and told me, 'You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind.'



Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge and over the years,

Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, 'No. But you are getting smarter every year, my child.'

Then one year, my grandfather died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried.

I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry.

My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to my Grandfather.

She asked me, 'Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?'
I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me.

She saw the confusion on my face and told me, 'This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you were wrong and I have given you an example why.

But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson. 'She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. She said, 'My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.'

I asked, 'Is it because it holds up my head?'

She replied, 'No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend
or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear. I only hope that you have enough love and friends that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it.'

Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is made for others and not for yourself. It is sympathetic to the pain of others.

People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did . But people will NEVER forget how you made them feel.



The origination of this letter is unknown, but it brings a blessing to everyone who passes it on.

Good friends are like stars...You don't always see them, but you always know they are there.

“Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”

Good times and bad times are cumulation of our decisions and actions. Since no one is perfect, we do tend to take certain decisions that may result in bad patches in our lives. Relationships that we build along the journey of life, our family, friends and loved ones make all the difference during these times. The most essential life skill, hence, is the ability to cultivate support systems in the anticipation of those rough spots. If we can understand this, we can be prepared for life's inadvertent set backs.

Family and friends are frequently primary sources of emotional support. Colleagues and mentors are often sources of career support. Social groups and special interest groups form a support system for stress busting. Relationship networks give us a sense of belonging. We tend to be healthier, happier and more resilent.

Relationship building is a simple function of give and take. Reach out and share yourself with others. Make the extra effort to give help when needed. Appreciate the little things that people do. And, more than anything else, take interest in people’s lives.

The cardinal rule of retaining relationships is staying in touch. Be pro-active in your communication. A simple ‘hello’, once in while, whether by email or SMS can go a long way in forging the relationship. You remind your friend that he/she is in your thoughts. Also, never fail to return calls or messages.

Today’s world is competetive and cut-throat. Sure, we must be focussed on our dreams and goals. But, care must be taken that this does not distance us from those around us. When we reach out for support, we must not find ourselves adrift mid-ocean in the sea of adversity, with no tow-boat in sight.

Support systems are not built in a day. And we cannot build them at once, when we need them the most. They are to be built brick by brick, day by day, so that when we need them, the pillars are in place.